As you all know I am not in delhi anymore. I have moved to my hometown which actually is a small town in Tamilnadu. As I have come here, I cannot wear my western clothes! Because its considered ‘ ‘inappropriate’ & ‘indecent’. In this 21st century we still cannot wear what we want. I know how to dress. I shall never wear shorts or skirts to temples or anywhere which might make people uncomfortable. But then when you are actually wearing decent clothes and even then people come and stare at you, what shall one do?
Once I went to buy few vegetables. I was wearing a kurti (which was not even close to being a deep neck) and leggings. An old lady came and adviced me, rather told me in front of a vendor to wear dupatta. I got so furious. I felt like slapping her. But she was old and I did not even tell her anything. She spoilt my image and respect in front a male vendor. That spoilt my image and not me not wearing a dupatta. I cannot wear a burkha and go to places. That’s not who I am. And I have seen a hell lot of tamilians coming and telling north Indian girls to dress properly. I’m sorry if I’m being linguistic, but this is a problem I have been facing since my childhood. Why should somebody bother about a person completely unrelated to you tell you what to and what not to wear. If you want the society to be good and help, then teach your freaking sons and husbands not to stare at girls.
When I was in the market, middle aged fat ass men were staring and making sounds. How cheap is that? I thought south india is safer as there are lesser rape cases when compared to north india. But I realized that these men do not have the balls to rape someone. They can sit and pass comments like idiots. So pissed off!
By this post I just mean to say that where should one draw a line? What does the society expect from a girl? What is dressing appropriately and decently? I seriously need answers!


  1. opal

    It's the same case with most south Indian states. But, the situations in urban cities are much better. Iv just got one advice for you….shut your eyes and ears….Don't bother much and don't let these kinda people break your confidence…

  2. Emma Louise

    I'm really interested in India, I don't know what it is about it but I'm fascinated by it. Really interesting to read your opinion on fashion in a town in India. Following your blog now! x

  3. Roxanne

    Geez such horrid situations! Thankfully here in Mumbai, it's very chilled out.
    But even we have our idiots here. I don't see why anyone, an old woman or a fat man should dictate and tell you what and ho you should dress! As long as you are wearing normal clothes.
    And then again, what is normal for them?
    This happens everywhere by the way.
    I lived in Milan for a while, and once I ran out of something so I decided to run to the supermarket which was just across my apartment. I was in my pjs so I just threw on a sweater dress (almost till my knees) and my jacket of course with my boots. And the look that I got from people. I actually wondered if anything was wrong. One decent looking guy came and told me to wear stocking or else I'll catch a cold. And some ladies shook their heads disapprovingly. I was soo mad. I wanted to yell and point out, that's my apartment there, I'm so sorry if I'm not dressed up to your 'Milanese' standards! They made it seem like I was setting a bad example for their children!

    Anyways, sorry for the rant!
    But I feel you!


  4. sindhu gupta

    Hey thanks for sharing your story.I felt so good reading it.seriously. Such bad situations. Im hating all this. But I try my best to ignore these stupid things and move on.
    I loved that you took time and commented. Keep visiting 🙂

  5. Sneha

    I assure you it is the same every god damn place! The Hippocracy never goes away! Men aren't thought respect for women insteadd women are expected to sit at home….somethings about India will never change….just don't let it get to you! You be the person you believe in and do what is morally right not what this self centered society believes is right

  6. Nisha

    It seems India has figured out how to turn back time and go into the dark ages. Sadly, South India has a lot of pervs. -__- Delhi too! But at least in places like Delhi nobody takes offence to what you wear. All this craziness about clothes, the moral police in Mumbai and censorship is getting out of hand. I just see another Taliban. I hope you manage to cope with the ridiculousness. I think we need a national slut walk soon! Lol! New follower here. 🙂



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