A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step” – Lao Tzu
Yes it is the most redundant quote you have heard, yet so real and powerful! We are always surrounded by opportunities and what comes with it are the obstacles. Have you realised, we concentrate more on the obstacles? Why is it so easy and convenient for us to immediately think of ways how a certain thing we desire so much is impossible to achieve. Just imagine if we used the same energy towards making that very thing achievable! Easier said than done, I struggle with dealing negativity and obstacles every day! But as the quote above says, a beautiful journey begins with that one single step! That one step you take could be the easiest thing for someone else and you might doubt yourself. It is natural. You have to understand that everyone has a different journey and they are surrounded by different situations and obstacles. I do get inspired by a lot of people. Especially a lot of women who struggle each day to do simple things. Get inspired by others, but do not compare your journey with theirs!
And so, I started the year with taking a step towards something I have been longing to do; TRAVELLING! Now you might think, this is such a cliché. Yes, it is! But isn’t it the most beautiful and liberating thing to do? It was not easy for me to just pack my bags and head out anywhere. Why?
My challenges for travelling:
- Convincing my parents to let me travel with a friend
- Getting leave from work
- Managing finances
- The inability to handle spontaneity
- Always scared about security
Convincing my parents to let me travel with a friend:
I decided to travel to Kerala (Trivandrum, Varkala, Kollam) with my best friend, Malavika for 3 nights & 4 days. I made up my mind and decided I need to tell my dad about my decision. I very confidently expressed my desire and to my surprise, he did not say no! Infact he helped me with the planning. I thought to myself, “Seriously! It was that easy?” So what I thought was a challenge was nothing but my perception about things based on past events. You get where i’m getting at? Instead of just assuming that I will be refused, I just decided to go and ask confidently and it was as easy as that!
Getting leave from work:
As usual I was over-thinking this too. I had leaves in my kitty, all I had to do was to strategically use them! I planned my days around the weekend and festive time so that I could make use of the opportunity in the best way possible.
Now this is the part which is a common barrier for all of us who want to travel. While it is one the toughest things to manage, I would have to say that formulating a strategic plan goes a long way. You can choose between a backpacking or a luxurious trip or plan day wise. Like one day you might want to feel pampered and spend bucks on luxury and one day you could spend humbly. It completely depends on you. While planning, decide the number of days and mode of transportation. For me the fight was between time spent on travelling vs. the money spent! Spending time on train travel felt more expensive considering I couldn’t be absent from work for a longer time and I chose to fly instead, even though it meant spending 3 times more the cost. I had made a clear expense sheet before leaving and informed about my friend as well, and I am happy to say that we finished our trip well within our expense sheet without compromising on anything! A little planning goes a long way!
The inability to handle spontaneity:
I am a control freak! I just cannot handle last minute surprises and need to be well-prepared. Before leaving for the trip, I had booked my resort and literally planned everything to the T. But when we arrived at Trivandrum, I got to know that our resort for the Kollam stay was not confirmed and I was devastated! But we thought on our toes and decided to go off to Varkala instead of going to Kollam for 2 nights. And boy, that was the best decision ever! Had my rooms were confirmed, I would have missed a chance to spend one whole day in Varkala, which was the highlight of my 4 days trip! So the thing I learnt the most with this trip was that it’s ok if things don’t go the way you plan, go with the flow! Although I would like to add that a little more research on the place would have been beneficial. Nevertheless, it was an amazing experience!
Always scared about security:
Now this is one of the most important thing us girls have to worry about. My parents are also constantly worried if I am in a secure place or not! I was told that Kerala is a conservative place and we should be careful. Even though I was apprehensive about staying out late, we did not run off to our hotels right after sunset, but we headed back at around 10:30-11 in full consciousness (yes yes!) safely in cabs and even on a two wheeler in Varkala! We took a canoe ride in Kollam and to our surprise, we did not have to worry about anything. Usually I am very skeptical to go alone on boats at places where I struggle with the local language. But for some strange reason I was at calm and went ahead with everything without any qualms. I just had to stop thinking anything negative and go with the flow!
That’s about it! The whole purpose of writing this blog was to tell you my experience about how I decided to take a small trip with my best friend to clear out my head, to detox and to experience life with a new perspective. We all have certain reservations about travelling; but as the quote in the beginning says, a journey of thousand miles, literally begins with the first step you take! I have planned for another short trip in March and if everything goes well, a trip by the mid or end of the year.
I will be doing a blog on my Kerala trip where I will share the do’s and don’t(s), best places to visit and underrated spots of the state! Stay tuned.
Meanwhile do let me know about your insecurities and worries regarding travel, and let’s discuss on how we can overcome those challenges.